Do you ever get that feeling, that pit in your stomach, when you know you're supposed to be doing something (and it's something you even really want!) but you can't seem to motivate yourself to do it?
- Maybe it's that the task feels too big.
- Maybe you question why you should even bother.
- Maybe you simply feel lost inside your own head.
- Maybe you don't believe you can even do it.
Almost all of last month, I sat on my couch feeling like I couldn't do much of anything. Between wedding and honeymoon planning, working with clients, Mastermind meetings, coffee chats, Birthdays, dreary days, dehydration and a bout of food intolerance... I felt mentally & physically exhausted.
I stared at my to-do list making little to no progress each day. My frustrated face started making permanent stress wrinkles.
Each day it felt like I was climbing a mountain, even though I wasn't doing anything... and then the unwelcome guests, Guilt and Shame showed up for a surprise visit. Ugh...they're the worst.
There were things I truly wanted to work on and be doing, but I just couldn't seem to muster up the energy to get them done.
Then it hit me.
In my business, I'm working on my next big dream/goal. (This was the stuff on my to-do list that I desperately wanted to start, but just couldn't seem to make happen.)
I would just stare at it with Guilt and Shame hanging over my shoulders, asking myself why I couldn't muster up the energy to work on the things I felt most excited about?
We're more afraid of success than we are of failure.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
- Marianne Williamson
Whether it's the deep inner limiting belief that you shouldn't shine brighter than others, or perhaps the one where you're not worthy enough of such a big beautiful dream, or even further yet that if you pursue this big beautiful dream, you'll be abandoned by those you love...
I realized, in that moment, I was coming up against deep limiting beliefs and my resistance to my own dream was just part of the process.
Once this became clear to me, I happily sat next to Guilt and Shame and we talked about the big dream, how exciting it was, and then came up with an action plan. As soon as I took action, Guilt and Shame decided it was time to move on. (Whew! What a relief!)
My first few action steps were small, but deliberate. They made it easier to continue taking action, and finally the momentum started to grow.
This is what I like to call Brave Fear.
It's taking Brave Action right alongside fear.
It's not about trying to rid ourselves of the fear — that's what causes the uphill climb — instead it's about embracing that fear. Recognizing it, becoming aware of it, and embracing it to move forward.
After feeling stuck like this for an entire month and then using my own Brave Fear process to get out of it and get my mojo back, I’m creating a community for us to band together and practice Brave Fear together.
If you've been feeling like you're spinning your wheels, you're listless, unfocused, having a difficult time getting motivated to take action... then you're exactly who I created the Brave Fear for.
Also, I want you know that it's okay to be in this zone. You don't have to keep trying to fight it.
Instead, take a moment to embrace it. This an act of love toward yourself and your situation, and instead of beating yourself up to do more, be more, achieve more...simply embrace the space you're in.
We're all messy people in one way or another, there's no one that's perfect and there's no one who has it ALL figured out. We're all learning, evolving, growing, adjusting, living. ;)